Is a dbt skill I use to use often. Basically opposite action to reaction. I did this yesterday. Wanting to curl up in bed instead I did baking. Epic fail. I cried so hard because I didn’t have the money to waste such ingredients. Fast forward. He contacted me wanting to come for a coffee. I was screaming say no just say no. Instead I agreed. After all I wanted to see him. He turned up with my favourite icecream and treat foro ur children. I could see he was stressed from work and tired and abit snappy. But over all we had a nice pretty relaxed visit. I was happier when he left. We also discussed a couple of things I thought would stop. And they aren’t.
So today I wake after dreams all night, mostly about him and I. Knowing I’m not going to see him today. Also even though he’s at work not heard from him yet. I didn’t want to do anything today. But my daughter had been asked on a playdate. So I agreed to go. Using my opposite actions. The mum tells me where we are going and my heart sinks. We are going to the park that he took us. I nearly said no. I had made a decision not to go to our favourite places again without him. This is a first. So I’ll go, get out of the house with my anxiety and try my best to have a good time. Never know I might. Right