Hubby and I had a real breakthrough today. I’m so grateful. Its the beginning of a long road. But its a start. We actually communicated properly for the first time in weeks. Calmly (even with tears), I feel I heard him and he heard me. We had compromises and agree to disagrees. I’m feeling emotionally drained but with hope. Serious chat but with laughs, tears and love. I feel I can breathe. Its a good feeling hearing him tell me he loves me and wants to stay and make it work. I’m learning a lot about marriage that’s for sure. But one thing I hold my vows so dear. I know we’ve both made mistakes. I’m grateful I heard him out on something’s misunderstandings which were cleared up. I am proud I stood up for myself to. Things that are non negotiable, things that are important to me. I voiced things I need from him and things I know I can compromise on. I’ve decided I’m going to need to keep doing things I need to but to ask for help so I don’t burn out. We are not out of the woods but were stepping on the same path together to find our way through. Another thing I realised its huge for me is “effort” each of us making an effort for each other and ourselves. Even though neither of us have the answers we wish we did, we both have the same goals.